possessiveness ... !

POSSESSIVNESS..i doubt if any teen's life hasnt been involved with it.. atleast even if not directly..we all have been impacted by this strange and undefined feeling sometime or the other..! now, due to my past experiences..i am going to define exactly the "possessiveness" am gna talk about..! Its "Having or manifesting a desire to control or dominate another, especially in order to limit that person's relationships with others". Now, we all might have had a possesive parent, friend, sis, bro or even a lover. Though many think that the last one is the very common one actually it is not true. our parents, siblings, friends also are possessive sometimes..and I am telling this is in accordance with how i defined possessiveness. How many times have we abruptly severed ties with someone jus cuz ur friend dsnt like u talking ot them? or cuz ur parents/siblings aren't okay with ur relationship with somebody ? Loads of times right?? But usually we dont mind that..because we are jus kinda used to them being with us in our life that we sometimes let them make our decisions and abide by it subconsciously.Bbut in the case of a lover..We expect it to be different because mostly they are new in our life and we want them to understand our completely and be as we wish completely. But i feel possessiveness is healthy in small proportions in all relationships because it let the person know somebody needs you in their life more than anything, when our frnz or anybody is possessive about us it sometimes knowigly or unknowingly makes her feel a bit good ! But having said that, too much of control/dominance might make the relationship a bit suffocating. People might feel the other person thinks that they are unfit to make their own decisions or that their choices / feelings dont matter anymore. a clear communication might stop this from happening..! Let me end by saying this.. "holding onto your loved ones is good and special only till the grip doesnt start hurting them..if it does try loosening it up a bit with your trust and faith in them" !! :)